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Post by †Arisen† on Sept 26, 2011 10:53:28 GMT -5
All right. So, two months back my "boyfriend" decided he was going to leave me for another guy. The next day he told me he couldn't live with me being mad at him. We've had a rocky relationship ever since and I haven't been able to say that I trust him, or that I honestly love him.
I told him last night that my mother asked if I wanted to live somewhere else,after she threatened to kick me out. His response. "Marry me." I laughed, and he told me he was serious. I told him that I knew that.I told him I was nervous, because he asked because "he more or less asked" for me to marry him.
Then he told me he wasn't asking.
I told him I was still just a kid with no relationship experience and that I was going to bed. I woke to find a very nervous text from him this morning.
Our relationship is long distance. My parents don't know about it. I don't think his do either. Not really.
Now, I like someone else, and I know it'll never work because of our genders. Not to mention the age gap. But, she had really cared about me, but I don't think she does as much anymore.
But, anyone have any advice for me? I know I can't simply ignore him. And I know he won't stop pestering me until he gets an answer.
Help? ;;-;;
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Post by Dark on Sept 26, 2011 20:48:39 GMT -5
If you don't truly love him or trust him...and you haven't had much relationship experience, then I would tell him that you can't say yes and that the relationship needs to grow before you can consider such a proposal. Too many people these days rush into marriage. It is a serious commitment and if you don't have those qualities of love and trust then it will probably end in ruins. Give the relationship time and see if he can prove himself and gain back your trust for him. Don't just say yes because he seems genuine about asking and keeps bothering you. I'm not sure if that's helpful but that's just my honest opinion.
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Post by †Arisen† on Sept 26, 2011 20:58:39 GMT -5
No, no, it is helpful. I keep hearing the same thing from many people.
And I am too young. I just turned 18 a couple weeks ago.
Thanks for your input, Dark. ^^ It helps.
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Post by bloodangel666 on Sept 27, 2011 20:59:49 GMT -5
I honestly think you should explore your feelings and see if this girl has a shot with you. Gender shouldn't matter in a relationship, it's whatever you decide is best for you. And I agree with Dark, you need to regain your trust for your "boyfriend", refeel the waters and not let yourself be pressured by anything. You have all the time in the world to get married and settle down, you have all the time in the world to discover who you truely love and who will always love you and be there for you. To be honest, I don't think age really matters it's more experience and just things feeling right. You need o know you're heart will never be broken again and that you have found someone who will (sorry for the rickrolling) never give you up, let you down, desert you, lie to you or make you feel inadequate. And if that means exploring other avenues of your sexuality or your heart, than do it. Do what you think is right, in your heart for you.
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Post by †Arisen† on Sept 27, 2011 21:21:19 GMT -5
Well, yesterday she and I agreed to test it out. I'm really happy. ^^
I'm starting to think he wasn't serious at all now, considering he hasn't brought it up since.
Thanks for the advice, Blood.
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Post by bloodangel666 on Sept 28, 2011 19:58:31 GMT -5
I is very happy for you
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Post by †Arisen† on Sept 28, 2011 23:10:17 GMT -5
I'm very happy too~! ^^
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Post by Admin on Sept 29, 2011 17:33:48 GMT -5
Yay! I'm happy when things seem to work out for people here at home
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